10 Reasons Men Should Read Romance


Think of the bedroom as your battleground. Reading romance is like going on a reconnaissance mission, using (PSYOPS) psychological operations to learn more about women before you engage. You want to win at seduction, which means going in with a plan. Knowledge is power and in the case of sex, the more you know, the better. Armed with inside knowledge of what women like, what they feel, what turns them on, etc., you’re ready to win.

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A Hester Prynne for Our Times


I’m tempted to use the term “hoisted with her own petard,” but that wasn’t what Bristol Palin was hoisted with. Yep, she’s pregnant again. Bristol has expressed her disappointment with this turn of events, so clearly it was unplanned. Her PR team has tried to smooth this over with the fact that Bristol was engaged at the time, with the implication being that an engagement ring is tacit permission to have sex. Look, I don’t think we need permission to have sex—it’s a natural function—but that isn’t the message Bristol has been espousing from her soapbox of young adult morality.

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Bad Boys and the HFN in Romance


Bad boys are a big trend in romance, but I’m not feeling the fantasy

Frequently on some writer’s thread, another writer will ask if a romance has to have a HEA (Happy Ever After) or at least a HFN (Happy for Now). The response from the romance writers is always a resounding “Yes!” We’re writing escape fantasy, not trying to win a “serious fiction” award.

I had a sudden insight the other day—which doesn’t happen nearly enough—and it freaked me out. Recent events have made me rethink the HFN ending. My definition of a HFN is where the couple ends up together but nothing is signed, sealed or delivered. There’s still an escape clause waiting in the fine print

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Another Celebrity Breakup is Breaking My Heart


Ben and Jennifer? Say it ain’t so

Just recently, I read the rumor that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are getting a divorce. About 90 percent of the time these rumors turn out to be true. We knew about Gwyneth and Chris before they announced their separation—although they seem to have defined a cool, new non-acrimonious post-divorce relationship, even vacationing together, which just seems so Gwyneth, doesn’t it?

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How to Be Beautiful Without Makeup


If you’re naturally beautiful, you don’t need this advice, but for the 99.999999% of the rest of us, read on

Last November, I hit a deer doing 75 mph. True story. I think I killed Bambi’s dad. All I saw was a flash of blond fur a second before I struck a large buck with my car. My brother-in-law calls me “the deerslayer.” Yeah, we’re that kind of family.  Nobody catches a break. I also killed my car, a Mazda3, but I walked away from the accident without a scratch. So, of course, I bought a newer version of the same model. When the universe tells you something important, you should listen.

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Musings about love, romance and relations between the sexes

If I had any sage wisdom to share, I’d be managing my own life a whole lot better, but if you have some spare time on your hands, I guess you could do worse than read my scrambled thoughts. That’s all I’m promising.

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